I killed 7 people because you …
I just watched a news program where Todd
Kohlhepp admitted killing 7 people. And he admitted to his mother, why he did
it.
Here is what she said ... 'I gave him
everything, everything!"
Why did he kill seven people? They embarrassed
him. He was trying to buy a motorcycle and the people selling him the bike made
fun of him. That's what he felt. One quote that Todd made I have to share is
"They made me feel ..."
And isn't this the mantra for all people... they
made me feel. You made me feel...
As a 'Mental Prosperity' executive coach I train
people in many areas. Bullying is only one. But it is an important one. And I
teach that no one makes you ‘feel’ unless you choose to let them control your
life and emotions. You have the ability to choose. I teach people this every
day and it works.
It is important because Bullying is an important
part of our lives. Don't ask me why, I am not a psychiatrist but I am a 'Mental
Prosperity' executive coach. I teach people how to communicate. How to achieve
greater success with people whether it's employees, managers, family. And
bullying exists in almost every area of our lives.
And what this Mother did not understand was a
simple parenting concept; if you give your child everything they most likely
won't understand most things. That sounds rather broad but they won't
understand much of what life is about.
I worked summers on my uncles farm in Iowa and
one of the many lessons I learned was simple - it was a chicken lesson and it
went like this.
The first time I watched a chick breaking out of
its shell I reached in to help. As I reached my uncle stopped me and said not
to help. I was confused. Don't we all want help? He said, if you help a chick
break out of its shell it will not become strong enough to live. Since then, I
have heard that from experts all across America. Creatures and humans need that
early struggle to gain strength in order to become strong enough to walk and
get to the real food source or they will die.
Here is a real life example of what Mrs.
Kohlhepp didn't understand. Maybe of what America has forgotten when we give
medals and certificates to ALL of the children who play a sport. You were good
enough to play.
But playing isn't enough. There are lessons to
learn in all sporting events. I remember how disappointed I was when my son
would rather just stand and daydream rather than chase the soccer ball to show
he was an athlete. What I learned was, that was not an interest for my son. He
could care less about soccer. Whoop dee doo. He got a certificate for
participating that year. But he learned very little from soccer. Well, for a
four year old, what was I hoping he would learn? Except that he learned that he
and I got to play a lot more by kicking that ball back and forth in the back
yard. He learned his dad loved him. But it wasn’t from me pushing him to run or
yelling at him for not participating.
Lessons I taught him because I knew he had to
learn as he grew were up how to handle bullies of all kinds. Bullies who
physically abused him so he learned how to stand up to the bullies. He learned
over the years about the emotional and verbal abuse bullies could heap upon
you. (we have all felt bullied, right?). And he learned when he came crying
home to me that people bullied for lots of reasons.
Maybe they were bullied, by parents, other kids,
friends, relatives, teachers... and he learned how to COPE. He learned how
loved he was and nothing anybody said would change that he was loved.
He learned that he should sometimes listen to
the bullies and see if what they say has any truth? Then GROW from that.
He learned that there are many insecure people
out there who must yell and scream, punch and push because they can't feel like
they are wrong. He was taught that being WRONG IS OK.
And he learned that bullying others does not win
you anything except maybe that others will now fear you instead of caring about
you.
This man killed seven people because he wasn’t
taught how to COPE with people who want to hurt or belittle him. He wasn’t
taught how he had real value to himself, his family, to the world no matter
what else happens. He wasn’t trained to hear it, see it, and deal with it. Mrs.
Kohlhepp didn't help her child by GIVING HIM EVERYTHING.
Bullying will always be around. You need toteach and be taught how to deal with bullies. Don't fear them. Don't give them
value in your life. Simply be able to look at them and feel sorry for them if
that is the only way they can feel good about themselves.
Steve Sapato - the most famous unfamous speaker
in America.
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