I just had to deal with a bully... have you?

It is interesting to me that we spend so much time lecturing bullies how they shouldn't bully. That's like telling people who shout not to shout. Because right now and probably for some time to come that's who they will be and we won't change that with one lecture or one go sit in the corner.

What does change them? Nothing. Deal with it. Nothing. It will take counseling, therapy and surrounding them with superior people to make any significant change. Do you have that much time?

Well here is what I know. We can help the bullied people much faster, easier and with more wonderful results because they want the help.

I just took a phone call from someone who wanted something. They first asked. Then they gave me what had happened in the past. Then they told what they could do for me. Then they said what they had done fore the last person. And each time I said I want to go in a different direction. I want to try something else. I need to see what is going to happen. And each time instead of listening, hearing, this person kept pushing their agenda. Kept pushing what they wanted. Kept pressuring me knowing that I would give in, give up or let them do what they wanted to do.

Instead, I stayed strong. Knew what I wanted. Knew what I was looking for, hoping for and desired. I knew the direction I wanted to go and it wasn't in the same direction as they wanted me to go.

But like most bullies until I stood my ground, until I said No! Until I was strong enough to face them down they would keep pushing.

And that is what we need to teach our children, our friends, our associates our families. Stand and be strong.

Bullies exist because good people stay silent. Bullies exist because good people step aside. Bullies exist because good people don't say NO!

Whether it's on the playground in grade school, high school, where you work, where you play, or your own home we have to learn to say, NO.

And when we learn to say No and mean it then we can face up to the bully, the situation and make our world a better place. And when we stand up it will encourage others and maybe, one day, No More Bullies will become a movement and then, the bullies will be afraid of us.

Now the gift you are given is this, use positive words to talk to everyone. Encourage everyone. Lift them up. Give them praise. Empower your children, your spouse, your friends, your coworkers and help get them strong in their minds and hearts and then they will one day be strong enough to say, no, you can't say that, do that or make me afraid any more.

Bullies exist only because the good people haven't learned to say, No more.

Steve Sapato is an I am an expert in Mental Prosperity and bringing you to the place you always wanted to be. www.mentalprosperityblog.com